In regards to marrying into noble houses, if a noble man marries a noble woman from a different house, I would assume one of two things happens:

  1. The woman takes the man's name and the two houses become allied to one another.

  2. They make their own name and marshall the coat of arms. If this is incorrect, please do correct me by all means.

But say a common man marries a woman of a noble house. Does he take their name? Does she take his name but he is of her house? Or, assuming the noble woman is the heir, does she take his name and the name of the house changes also?

I would point out I am speaking in general for fantasy purposes (and yes, I know I can technically say what I want because I'm making it up, but I'd like to have strong basis in fact), so I understand that this exact situation may in fact never have actually occurred; but even so, I'm supposing there'd be a set precedent in case.

EDIT: As it's fantasy it isn't strictly European but drawing from pretty much anywhere with a similar social structure. Information from any European country or elsewhere (Russia, for instance, but anywhere) would make me very grateful, especially if the area could be mentioned in the answer. Also, let me stress, this isn't like a plot point or anything, I'm just curious but as I'm thinking about it in terms of personal fantasy fiction it doesn't have to have a real-world example of it happening to satisfy me. I realise it's an unlikely thing to happen but the point is it is possible.

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    I'm guessing you're looking for answers regarding European nobility, but you should probably be more specific - where in Europe, and in what time frame. These things change over time and across borders. Think of the closest historical analogue to your fantasy kingdom. Mar 1, 2014 at 14:49
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    An Irish example :- en.wikipedia.org/wiki/John_Hely-Hutchinson_(secretary_of_state) the husband and the wife take the uncle's surname after inheriting the title through the wife. Jul 19, 2021 at 10:29

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So your fantasy is about a common man obtaining a title by marrying into a noble family? To my best knowledge the chances of this happening are slim. What is more likely is that the woman (or at least her children) will lose her title.

As cases in points in recent history, consider Alfonso Díez Carabantes (the third husband of the Duchess of Alba and 24 years her junior) or Max Kothbauer (a rich banker who married Maria-Pia Ludovika Ulrika Elisabeth Paschaline Katharina Ignazia Lucia Johanna Josefa, Princess of Liechtenstein who is currently Ambassador Extraordinary and Plenipotentiary of Liechtenstein to Austria as well as Mrs. Maria-Pia Kothbauer). Japanese former Princess Nori (now Mrs. Sayako Kuroda) also married a commoner and "left the Japanese Imperial Family, as required by law".

I'm sure there are are also some exceptions (esp. in the lower ranks of nobility), yet apparently a fantasy it must remain...

You may also want to recall Napoleon's biography: he started from relatively humble roots but rose to high enough power to reframe all kinds of rules: he raised several Dukes to Kings and married an Emperor's daughter. Nobody complained too loudly while he remained in power, and some (such as new Kings) preferred not to complain even afterwards. So here was one who able to pull it off quite fantastically...

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    I didn't actually consider the woman or her children losing the title, and in actual fact this personally opens up far more fun and possibility for me than the options I thought existed; and the examples for both side of the argument just make the answer even better, and the fact that it happens all over the world is the sprinkles on top. Thank you so much, Drux!
    – Mac Cooper
    Mar 1, 2014 at 15:43
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    In the UK at least, a woman does not lose her own title if she marries a commoner, although she often takes his name (Countess Mountbatten took her husband's name of Knatchbull on marriage). Even a woman with a courtesy title - ie not a peeress - retains her title, so if Lady Jane St Claire marries Mr John Smith, she would be Lady Jane Smith - her husband would remain plain "Mr".
    – TheHonRose
    Nov 11, 2016 at 21:38
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    @TheHonRose - That at least is a case where the husband really should have done all he could to take his wife's family name.
    – T.E.D.
    Aug 17, 2018 at 19:59
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    Note also that when Queen Victoria married Prince Albert, the Royal House became Saxe-Coburg Gotha, which it remained until George V changed it during WWI to the less Germanic Windsor. However, when Elizabeth II became Queen, Prince Philip's uncle, Lord Louis Mountbatten, prematurely celebrated the Royal House of Mountbatten, only to be told, to Philip's disgust, that the Royal House would remain Windsor.
    – TheHonRose
    Feb 23, 2019 at 21:33
  • @TheHonRose It's likely that Albert of Saxe-Coburg-something (it changed) didn't have the title of "Prince" before he married Victoria ....his father was only duke.
    – Spencer
    Jul 13, 2023 at 23:42

During the preparation of the royal wedding between The Royal Heiress to the Swedish throne and a commoner, people talked about heraldry and the possibility that a new royal house will emerge. But this changed when The Royal Household afirmed that the commener Westling will change and add his surname into The Royal Family name.

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    So the fantasy may life on ... :)
    – Drux
    Mar 2, 2014 at 21:23
  • So he took the name Bernadotte (the royal house name) as his surname, his previous surname becoming a middle name? That's interesting and spot on; shows that there are definately exceptions to the rule. Is there a reason why he's Prince Daniel instead of Prince Olof, do you know?
    – Mac Cooper
    Mar 2, 2014 at 22:15
  • His official name is Olof Daniel Westling Bernadotte. His former surname Westling has become his new middle name. Why he´s Daniel instead of Olof can be that his parents called him Daniel as a child and everybody did the same. Olof could be the name of a former family member on father or mother side and given to Daniel as a commemoration name. Mar 2, 2014 at 23:17

First, I am assuming that you are giving your fantasy world a "Western European" flavour. Working from this assumption there are still a myriad details that vary from nation to nation within Western Europe, but in general the two houses are allied, but the offspring only marshall the coat of arms; the husband and wife are each only entitled to their own arms.

That said however, if the husband and wife are each head of their respective houses (as with Ferdinand of Aragon and Isabella of Castile), then they have authority to do otherwise than above.

You can obtain much more information on European heraldic traditions, by nationality and culture, by looking up both heraldry and the respective national Colleges of Arms on the web:

Also note that the merging of two houses is not as simple as the wedding of respective heirs. There is usually continued friction between the nobles of the two countries, and sometimes the commoners as well. As noted in the link to Ferdinand of Aragon above, it was not until the ascension of Charles I (grandson of Ferdinand and Isabella) that Castile and Aragon truly united.

Likewise, Scotland and England still see themselves as distinct countries within the United Kingdom of Great Britain, with a common monarch, more than 400 years after the ascension to the throne of England by James the VI and I.

Note that someone who is entitled to bear (a coat of) arms may wear any arms desired, once the same have been registered with a College of Arms in order to ensure that:

  • No conflict exists with arms already granted;
  • No inappropriate marshaling of previously granted arms has been performed; and
  • No symbols of rank (sceptres, acorns, etc.) have been used inappropriately.

Lord George, 1st Viscount Sackville, was infamous for his alleged cowardice at the 1759 Battle of Minden; and judged at court martial as "... unfit to serve His Majesty in any military Capacity whatever." Then "in 1769, Lady Elizabeth Germain died without natural heirs, and left her estates ... to him." From the following year he was then able to formally take the name Lord George Germain. By that moniker he again became infamous in Lord North's cabinet as Secretary of State for Colonial Affairs from 1775 until 1782.

At the Battle of Minden he four times ignored or refused to obey orders to advance with his cavalry, and even stopped a subordinate from doing so on his own initiative.

  • Regarding the marshalling: that helps a lot! I did do some research before coming here but must have missed that point (no sarcasm). You're information on the heraldry is really interesting and helpful: thanks, especially for the links. I wonder, Pieter Geerkins, do you have any information regarding the names as well?
    – Mac Cooper
    Mar 1, 2014 at 15:24
  • @Paul Hutton: Thank you for the edit; can you tell I've read Lord of the Rings many, many, times? Mar 2, 2014 at 23:57
  • "... he was then able to formally take the name Lord George Germain." Just to clarify, he was Lord George as a younger son of a Duke. Changing his surname to Germain was a condition on Inheriting the Germain fortune - a common practice, Jane Austen's brother Edward became Edward Austen Knight by a similar arrangement. . The title is irrelevant.
    – TheHonRose
    Jul 20, 2021 at 18:13

In one unusual circumstance, when the Count von Bohlen married Bertha Krupp (of the Krupp arms house), the man (von Bohlen) was asked by the Kaiser to add his wife's surname, Krupp, to his own. They became the Krupp von Bohlens.

This was true, even though as a member of the nobility, von Bohlen technically outranked his (commoner) wife. But the name "splicing" came about because the Krupp name had become synonymous with German armament.

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    That transformation seems similar to what frequently also applied when commoners were raised (not by marriage) into the nobility in 19th-century Germany and Austria: e.g. Claus Schenk Count of Stauffenberg (original family name was Schenk) or Count Franz Conrad von Hötzendorf (original family name was Conrad). BTW & FWIK von Bohlen was not formally a Count.
    – Drux
    Mar 3, 2014 at 8:24
  • I really like this answer for its "twist" which I think always good for fiction writing +1
    – Razie Mah
    Mar 3, 2014 at 20:10
  • @RazieMah: Do you write historical fiction? I'm on Writers' SE; you might find it helpful also. writers.stackexchange.com/users/4599/tom-au
    – Tom Au
    Feb 26, 2015 at 1:50

It's later than the middle ages (18th century), but the fictional Barry Lyndon (novel and film) involved Redmond Barry marrying Lady Lyndon and henceforth being known as Barry Lyndon. A main sub-plot of the story involved his struggle to get a peerage in his own right.

Thackeray based Redmond Barry on the real-life Andrew Robinson Stoney, who married Mary Eleanor Bowes, Dowager Countess of Strathmore and Kinghorne. He took the name of Andrew Robinson Stoney-Bowes.

In a fictional setting, the appropriation of a noble name by a commoner groom has some literary pedigree, and can raise some good dramatic tension in my opinion.


Something similar to what you propose was possible in the Austro-Hungarian Empire. I dont know how common it was but when my great-grandparents married, they did this. They both had titles but only the woman was going to inherit land, so the husband took her name and coat of arms after marriage.

This happened at the beginning of the 20th century in Lika, current day Croatia.

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