Harems were common in the Orient; the Chinese emperor, the Ottoman sultan, and the Mongol emperor all had many wives.

Roman Emperors did not have a similar custom. Why is the harem common in the Orient, but not in the Western world? What institutions in the West fulfilled the role that the Harem played in the East?

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    You may be surprised but first Roman princeps Augustus was much devoted to family values.
    – Matt
    Sep 24 '15 at 14:05
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    Traditional Roman familia was a keystone in state ideology.
    – Matt
    Sep 24 '15 at 14:06
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    Having multiple wives does not a "harem" make.
    – Alex P
    Sep 24 '15 at 22:08
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    You may heard about another institutions that served well similar needs: slaves and prostitutes...
    – Greg
    Sep 25 '15 at 1:12
  • I don't have the historical chops to make this a proper answer, but note that emperor comes from imperator: first citizen. Augustus was under great pressure to show that he was just a citizen, albeit one with special priviliges. Contrast this with eastern rulers who often took the status of God. Nothing like the general populace, and certainly not beholden to the same morals. Later emperors certainly declared themselves god, but this careful start of the title might have something to do with it.
    – Peter
    Sep 28 '15 at 8:01

One key lies in their treatment of illegitimacy, or bastardy. In Roman society, as is typical of the West in general, illegitimate children had no formal link to their fathers. This was true from the earliest times, and lasted well into the Imperial period before a softening of the laws occurred in the second and third centuries.1

In the Roman setting, illegitimacy was chiefly a disability in inheritance law. It was a major problem in cases of intestacy, where the father either left no will or his will failed for technical reasons ... in Roman law illegitimate children had no legal relationship to their fathers.2

Conversely, in the Eastern societies (at least, the named examples with royal harems), all sons were acknowledged and given a place in the succesion line.

  • Chinese inheritance laws gave precedence to the sons of the legally married wife. However, if the official wife had no issue, succession defaults to primogeniture for all other sons. While similar to the West in that "illegitimate" children or children by concubines were scorned, they were ultimately considered fully legitimate backup heirs.3
  • Ottoman succession was initially a bloody competition open to all adult sons. Inevitably, the extensive fratricides threatened the lineage with extinction, causing a shift to agnatic seniority. Nonetheless, in a reflection of Turko-Mongol traditions (as was the case with the other great Islamic Empire of the Safavids), all sons were equally legitimate participants.4
  • Mongolian customs assigned value to offspring based on the status of their mothers. Sons of the first, official, wife were thus entitled to a larger share of the inheritance, but all children were acknowledged. They all had a claim to their father's legacy, even if unequally.5

Let us disregard the role of sexual jealousy and focus on the practical impact of such succession laws. Since any of them could produce the future emperor, all sexual partners of the ruler must be guarded from other men. This is to ensure that they could only be impregnated by the ruler himself, so that the correct progeny continue to sit on the throne.

Indeed, this is why harems were commonly staffed by eunuchs6:

In many of these cultures [practising castration] eunuchs were employed as harem attendants or guards. This was done to keep the attendants or guards from sexually interacting with the women or getting the women pregnant.7

The lack of formal rights to succession in the Roman system precluded the need for highly secluded, guarded harems in the style of the Orient. However, this does not mean Roman emperors behaved any differently in their sexuality.8 The Roman Empire was unabashedly a slave society. Slaves, being properties, were essentially at the mercy of their masters' whims. As is typically the case, slaves were commonly sexually exploited by their owners from at least the late Republican period.

In [the first half of the second century B.C.] promiscuous, sometimes brutal, sex indulgences with slave women becomes noticeable in the Roman historical sources. In the following century this freedom of sex indulgence with female slaves become more marked and is openly discussed by Horace.9

Naturally enough, the Roman Emperors were no exceptions, though they may have been under more pressure to keep their activities hidden from the Roman public. Tiberius for instance was said to have bought numerous prostitutes to the relatively remote island of Capri. Similarly, the historian Publius (or Gaius) Cornelius Tacitus reported that Nero tried to hide his night life of sexual debauchery.

[Petronius] described fully the prince's shameful excesses, with the names of his male and female companions and their novelties in debauchery, and sent the account under seal to Nero ... When Nero was in doubt how the ingenious varieties of his nightly revels became notorious, Silia came into his mind, who, as a senator's wife, was a conspicuous person, and who had been his chosen associate in all his profligacy. [Annales. 16. 19-20]

The luridly detailed and particularly depraved tales of orgies, incestuous rapes and virgin fetishism involving emperors reported by Suetonius may or may not be accurate. Yet the mere fact that such rumours were preserved indicates that contemporary Romans did not find them so implausible.10

1. Schäfer, Peter. The Talmud Yerushalmi and Graeco-Roman Culture. No. 93. Mohr Siebeck, 2002. "[I]n the 2nd century, the birth of illegitimate children could be registered in the official records previously reserved for legitimate children, and by the early 3rd century Romans interpreted an earlier law in a manner that set aside the rights of patrons to inherit form their freedwomen's estates, in favor of illegitimate as well as legitimate children."
2. Phang, Sara Elise. The Marriage of Roman Soldiers (13 BC-AD 235): Law and Family in the Imperial Army. Vol. 24. Brill, 2001.
3. Hinsch, Bret. Women in Early Imperial China. Rowman & Littlefield Publishers, 2010. "Chinese marriage was theoretically monogamous ... An emperor might enjoy hundreds of consorts, but he had only one true wife."
4. Faruqui, Munis D. The Princes of the Mughal Empire, 1504–1719. Cambridge University Press, 2012. ""Like the Ottoman Empire, [the Safavid dynasty's] early succession practices reflected Turco-Mongol-inspired ideas that vested imperial sovereignty in all male members of the royal clan or family."
5. Rossabi, Morris. "Khubilai Khan and the women in his family". From Yuan to Modern China and Mongolia: The Writings of Morris Rossabi. Brill, 2014. ""Yet even the lowest concubines could rest assured that her children stood to inherit property from their father. They were not treated as illegitimate children without any claims to their father's wealth. Though the first wife was accorded a higher status than the rest and her children inherited a larger share of their father's property, the children of the other wives and concubines received a portion fo the legacy."
6. Smith, Bonnie G. The Oxford Encyclopedia of Women in World History: 4 Volume Set. Oxford University Press, 2008. "Eunuchs were, and are, most familiar from their role of attending upon and guarding women ... the appeal of eunuchs was that they could not impregnate the women they were charged with guarding."
7. Giles, James. "Sex hormones and sexual desire." Journal for the Theory of Social Behaviour 38.1 (2008): 45-66.
8. Veyne, Paul. The Roman Empire. Harvard University Press, 1997. "Emperors, even when married, kept a harem of slave concubines in the palace, and Claudius was known to sleep with more than one at a time."
9. Westermann, William Linn. The Slave Systems of Greek and Roman Antiquity. Vol. 40. American Philosophical Society, 1955.
10. Icks, Martijn, and Eric Shiraev. Character Assassination Throughout the Ages. Palgrave Macmillan, 2014. "[T]he precondition for its publicity was the fact that it did not seem implausible to contemporaries: people apparently assumed that all kinds of things might have happened within the hidden confines of the imperial palace. Thus it did not seem at all absurd to Suetonius that Caligula had transformed his palace into a brothel and forced noble women and boys to prostitute themselves there."

  • Why the emperors could not have several formal wives if they wanted all children to be in full right?
    – Anixx
    Sep 25 '15 at 10:41
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    @Semaphore: I think the question Anixx asks is, "why did the Roman legal system not allow some form of polygyny, thereby enabling Roman Emperors to keep many women all of whose children would be legitimate?". I think that question supposes that Roman Emperors wanted potential successors from many women (which is what the Chinese/Ottoman/Mongolian rulers had at various times), and all that stood in their way was this pesky legal issue you describe with illegitimate children having no inheritance rights. Sep 25 '15 at 12:43
  • @SteveJessop I see. Indeed having many heirs is not necessarily desirable. But also I believe the cultural outlook is simply quite different. I've written elsewhere on how monogamy was quite ingrained in Graeco-Roman tradition.
    – Semaphore
    Sep 25 '15 at 13:17
  • Great answer! A question though: if legitimacy of children was at the core of Roman family relations, what effect the practice of adoption had on it? More than one emperor selected his successor by formally adopting him, thus endowing him with what you call "formal link" to the emperor. What prevented other Romans from holding a harem and adopting their children?
    – Michael
    Sep 25 '15 at 20:38
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    @Michael I believe Roman patricians typically adopted candidates from their own social class. Adoption as a means of legitimation were generally not possible up to and including the early Empire: adoption had to be between two citizens, excluding children of slaves and iirc concubines. Note that it isn't a matter of being prevented, as much as a matter of need. Oriental style harems were necessitated because all children were legal heirs. Romans had no need their illegitimate children could only become heirs by special dispensation. Otherwise, a house of slavegirls was basically a harem.
    – Semaphore
    Sep 25 '15 at 22:40

The Romans had two institutions that the Eastern rulers lacked: monogamy, and primogeniture.

Monogamy meant that even wealthy Romans would have only one wife. One might have plenty of mistresses on the side, but these weren't "wives. Which led to the next thing, primogeniture. That is, inheritance of the family line by the one and only oldest son, begotten of one legitimate wife.

The eastern rulers on the other hand, practiced polygamy. That meant that the ruler married numerous women (some of whom he never slept with). But it also meant that any son of any wife had a "shot" at the throne, not just the first born son of one wife.

The whole point of the harem was not just to provide a plentiful supply of sex partners for the ruler, but to deny them to other men. This was necessary so that claimants to the throne would all have royal blood (in the days before DNA tests). On the other hand, Roman rulers did not have to deny their mistresses to other men; many of those mistresses were actually other men's wives.

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    Actually, Chinese marriage laws required monogamy but allowed concubines, just like Romans. Chinese succession laws also mandated primogeniture. While their exact implementations have differences that might explain the disparity in harems, it is definitely not simply that Chinese rules "lacked monogamy and primogeniture".
    – Semaphore
    Sep 28 '15 at 16:52
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    @Semaphore: Fair enough. The Chinese seems to be an "intermediate" case between the Romans and the other Asians.
    – Tom Au
    Sep 28 '15 at 17:10
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    Chinese marriage require monogamy? Any source?
    – user4234
    Oct 1 '15 at 11:02
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    @SharenEayrs See the footnote in my answer for the paragraph on Chinese family customs.
    – Semaphore
    Oct 1 '15 at 13:27

While the Roman emperors were no doubt a happy bunch, they certainly weren't homosexual.
They had wives, children, extra-marital affairs (often to the horror of the court), concubines, the works.

But what they didn't have was a big building full of sex slaves, gathered as loot during military campaigns and taken into their household in exchange for favours from foreign dignitaries.
Such wouldn't do in Roman society where family values were held in great esteem (at least in public).

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    "big building full of sex slaves" - that was exactly Tiberius was accused of. And they also said that Caligula was going to legalize polygyny. So it's not clear whether Roman emperors were truly unfamiliar with "eastern" habits. But at least Romans never liked this.
    – Matt
    Sep 24 '15 at 14:30
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    ...Tiberius did that far away from Rome, in secret. Not in public.
    – Oldcat
    Sep 24 '15 at 18:41
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    The fact that they were "accused of" meas that the society found such things unacceptable, so therefore even if the emperors did it, they tried to do it in secret.
    – vsz
    Sep 25 '15 at 4:05
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    I can't process the "they certainly weren't homosexual" meaning. You can't extrapolate the definition of homosexuality as we use it nowadays. See for example en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Antinous Sep 25 '15 at 14:59
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    @jwenting O My! I haven't had read the previous incarnations of the question, and the current edit doesn't mention homosexuality, so I thought you were introducing the term. Sorry for the misunderstanding :) Sep 25 '15 at 21:06

Romans had little social restraint when considering sex.

Incest was ok, brothels were pretty abundant, wealthy folks in particular didn't really need a harem, as they more or less had many slaves that could be used however they deemed fit. You could say sexual events including orgies were a very usual thing among those above worker class. Also Romans had quite a pride. It was very acceptable to satisfy the sexual urge with a slave but absolutely detestable to have a partner with a large difference in social status. So while a lady could be single and can have a whole set of slaves with huge penises to entertain her - and people would accept it as OK - if she can afford it - good on her. There would be huge social pressure when marrying someone of lower status.

Naturally even in that time there were people that chose morality as a code of conduct. This isn't about them.

Many roman discoveries are still locked under key due to their explicit pornographic nature. The culture was quite different from what it is today.

Now don't ask me to prove it to you or anything - but I have read some scriptures in the lands where I live about this, and we had roman strongholds. The church has made significant efforts to erase some of the more immoral heritage of the Roman empire.

Old writing here says some of the settlements directly tied with the Romans were so saturated with entertainment and sex. At first many people were thought to have disappeared, having later investigations reveal that merchants and soldiers did not disappear, rather faced with settlements where orgies are a common place, the economy was OK - they simply arrived and never wanted to leave any more.

And today few people would want to acknowledge that most of everybody's ancestors were sex hungry savages either way.

Harems are more about possession of women than they are about anything else. It seems that possessing the poor and slaves was enough for the Romans to not need harems. Besides even if they wanted to, basic Roman pride dictates they maintain a culture that supposedly has a moral high-ground compared to others. After all - Romans considered most other nations as complete savages - while they who devoured everything in their path - liked to think they are way superior than others.

You couldn't pull off that claim of how great and unique you are if you adopt everything convenient from other cultures.

And no, I'm not going to provide historic evidence for any of these statements - if anybody insists on disagreeing - you are wasting your time...

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    -1 for refusing to provide sources
    – Mark
    Sep 24 '15 at 22:37
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    Welcome to History.SE, helena. Please provide sources for your claims. Even if your answer is correct, we need to be able to verify the truth of your claims by checking the evidence.
    – Gwen
    Sep 24 '15 at 22:43
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    – T.E.D.
    Sep 28 '15 at 23:29
  • Topically, the harem of a king or emperor differs quite a bit in function and status from the social classes of slave or sex-worker. The question was regarding the former, not the latter. Aug 31 '17 at 1:01
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    Downvote for the last sentence. Sep 17 '17 at 22:07

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