Limerence - the involuntary, infatuated state that has been romanticized as love.
Before you read in, the basics of my question have to do with the historical forces that have shaped the modern popular conception that limerence is a virtue, a necessity for a full life, etc. - romanticized beyond reason.
I am not a history buff, but this topic is intensely interesting to me.
To my understanding, limerence did not become idolized to the point that it currently is until recently. Nowadays, it is a major theme of many movies and novels, wherein characters are unfulfilled without it. In popular culture it is held up as one of the most important things to experience in life, perhaps even a virtue. It is an ideal to which we should aspire. It is an acceptable and often used reason for marriage - which, as I understand it, is not how marriages generally used to work. There is no end to the number of Nicholas Sparks-style imagery, movies, novels, etc.
All of this despite the fact that science has high confidence that it is a transient phenomenon lasting on average 18-36 months.
Of course people have always experienced limerence, but to my understanding it was not such a central aspect of societies throughout history.
Perhaps I am fully incorrect in my assumptions; if so, please explain! Please don't downvote the question into oblivion. Or if you do, please leave a comment about why. I'm really interested in the historical forces that have shaped the modern popular conception of limerence to being a necessary component in a full, happy life.
If I were to hazard a guess, it is that people often don't have any better criteria to choose mates nowadays, and limerence is a very strong force. Even if that were true, it doesn't explain how the situation got this way.
Thank you very much!